The Sibling Connection

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The Sibling Connection

The Stages of Grief

"There is the beginning of grief, the middle of grief, and the rest of your life." Candy Lightner (founder of MADD)

John BOWLBY

He thought the grieving process was somewhat like what babies go through when they are separated from their mothers.

PROTEST
anger, disbelief

DESPAIR
depression, sadness, listlessness

DETACHMENT
the decision is made not to love again

If grief is not resolved, therefore, the grieving person may detach permanently from relationships.

Elizabeth KUBLER-ROSS

She wrote about the stages of grief a person experiences about their own death.

DENIAL

ANGER

BARGAINING

DEPRESSION

ACCEPTANCE

Terese RONDO

She calls these the 6-R Processes of Grief

Recognize the Loss

React to the separation

Recollect and re-experience the deceased and the relationship

Relinquish the old attachments to the deceased and the old assumptive world

Readjust to move adaptively into the new world without forgetting the old

Re-invest in Life

MODERN VIEW

Emotional response AND Cognitive Activity

Adjustment to change with continuing connection to the deceased

Formation of a new personal story of which the sibling's death is a part.

Finding meaning in life which takes account of the changed relationship with the deceased.

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